The Wedding Dais and Decor

The time has finally come where I can now book the space for my reception, which is going to be held at the void deck of my flat InsyaAllah. It is also just a less than 5-minutes walk from the mosque where my solemnization is going to take place.

Now I shall proceed to share with you the decor company who will be in-charge of making the bare space transform into something gorgeous. I love the company’s, Kasai Sayang, simplicity and elegance, as well as their workmanship. Can’t believe I’m meeting them again after almost a year (the last time I met them in person was around my engagement date, to book them) for a site visit and discuss more of the deco details.

Don’t they all look just simply gorgeous! I love almost all the looks that they have executed. Mine will be a purple, lavender and grey/silver affair, InsyaAllah. I’m getting excited just looking at my pinterest-style moodboards. ūüėÄ

A back story on my booking the space: There was actually a minor change in the town council’s policies for booking which made me panic a little. When I called the town council 6 months ago, I was told that you can only book the void deck 3 months before the event and this has been the rule since forever. However when I called recently, I was told that now the advanced 3-months period has been lifted and booking was now on a first-come-first-serve basis! So I was like, no… I hope no one in my block is having the reception on the same day(s) as me. *panic mode*

But all is well, Alhamdulillah. The next day I went to the town council and made the booking. While the lady behind the counter checked their calendar, I was praying silently “Please God, please let it be available for me…” And Alhamdulillah, she informed me that it’s still available! Overwhelming relief swept over me, MashaAllah. I proceeded to fill up the booking form and paid the booking fees. Thank you Allah for making this fall into place perfectly.

Ten Things Off the Wedding To-Do List!

Today allow me to toot my own horn a little as I list down the things I’ve managed to settle these past few weeks in my never-ending wedding-related TO-DO list, Alhamdulillah.

  1. Recce-ed Nanyang Polytechnic for outdoor post-wedding photoshoot
  2. Booked solemnization venue at my preferred mosque, Masjid Alkaff Kampung Melayu
  3. Confirmed the color theme for my family’s outfits
  4. Contacted Nani@artsygeekchic to design a mock-up of invitation cards
  5. Settled wedding photographer
  6. Settled groom’s outfits with Kak Nonie
  7. Booked flights for NZ, Alhamdulillah
  8. Sent bridal evening gowns for drycleaning
  9. Got started on wedding day(s) itinerary
  10. Obtained my wali and saksi/witness details (full name and I/C numbers)

Alhamdulillah for these completed tasks. There’s more to come, I’m very sure of that. Fellow BTBs have reminded me that the TO-DO list gets longer as The Big Day gets nearer, MashaAllah. This week, I aim to settle my solemnization and traditional outfits, apply for marriage at ROMM website and settle NZ accommodation InsyaAllah. May Allah ease my affairs and put blessings in my days, InsyaAllah. Please make du’a for me and my husband-to-be ūüôā

A Touch of Champagne Pink For The Big Day

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I’ve previously mentioned in my old blog years ago that I wanted to make my own wedding dress. And that I didn’t think I was crazy enough to do that.

Turns out I am, a little.

I’ve already got the evening gowns settled¬†(bought them from a bridal gown sale) but for my nikah, I want to make it special.¬†Why do I want to make my own wedding nikah¬†dress? Because I can. And because¬†I want to¬†keep it as a memory.

Several years ago, I took a dressmaking course¬†and have sewn¬†outfits for other occasions¬†before¬†but¬†of course, a wedding dress is totally different. But since I¬†want to make my¬†nikah¬†outfit simple, I¬†think it should be quite manageable, no? I bought some fabrics – laces and satins – from Pasar Baru at Bandung last year and have some designs in mind. Now here’s praying that it would be executed well, InsyaAllah.

Meanwhile how’s this dress for some inspiration. The chiffon, the layering, the texture and the touch of sweet champagne pink colour of the fabric and the ribbon, everything about it is just so dreamy…

The Engagement, in a nutshell

Starting off Wedding Wednesday with a post on my engagement on 23 December 2012.

me n fruits

The date coincides with the 6th year of my late dad’s passing on 23 December 2006, hence we had a tahlil and engagement on the same day. The original date was actually earlier, but due to some “unforeseen circumstances” the engagement happened to fall on this day. Despite these unforeseen circumstances (which I later learn are a common predicament in wedding planning), I would have to say Alhamdulillah, as¬†the event had¬†went well for both our families.

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What was supposed to be a small event in my head, became a not-so-small event in reality. With the tahlil in plan, it meant more guests from my side and with his big family, I nearly died when he told me¬†40¬†people will be coming from his side. OMA! (Oh My Allah!). The plan was that my family members¬†would come at 12 plus and¬†the tahlil to be around¬†around after zuhur. Then his family would arrive around 3 plus and that’s when the engagement session will commence.

the spread

The loot! It’s funny I told my family I wanted the theme to be gold and turquoise… I had in my head turquoise green, like those cupcakes I ordered¬†(center)¬†and¬†the family came with all sorts of turquoise shades (see those turquoise blue and gold cupcakes? Yeah.). Rule no. 1: Always be specific especially when it comes to your family members. Anyway, I must say it gave me goosebumps to see both our names on the cake like so:

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His loot was more cohesive, with purple and lace done by his sister-in-law.

his side loot

We had the blue hantaran cake, chocolate cake, kek lapis, baskets of candies, dried fruits, mini cupcakes and pulut kuning in cute little golden jars. Distributed these to the rest of the family who stayed at the end of the day.

me n mum

Oh mummy dearest, what would I ever do without you… However. Mum was excited and of course, pretty stressed up with the whole thing which made her jittery and annoyed at every single thing which in turn made me jittery and annoyed at every single thing… With the huge crowd that we were expecting, my mum, aunts and grandma had ganged up and wanted to have a small makan-makan downstairs…which totally conflicted with my idea of a small and intimate engagement. I mean, it’s not like I live in a two-storey bungalow or something..

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And it seems that the crowd,¬†his side of the family who arrived slightly before 4pm¬†agreed with them. So I lost. They won, hands down and I was in no position to fight (haha) being in my room hiding from all the crowd. Shy lah ok! So many people came just to see me… Which was why prior to the event I bought a dusty pink & maroon chiffon and satin gown from Lulu Alhadad, and asked my cousin to make me up; my cousin is no pro but she’s awesome possum. Look at her beautiful handiwork (me)!

me & yati

My granduncle, Kaik Ghazali (below, left)¬†was the representative from my side, and the two¬†pakciks were representatives from his side (whom names I can’t remember, but its ok I have a lifetime to start remembering them). Kaik Ghazali is one of my dad’s closest¬†uncle¬†and he used to be a teacher for many years. His elder brother, my grandfather had passed on in 1995 while I was in primary 2. And my dad, obviously I miss him so and wish he was here but it’s time to be brave and embrace a new chapter in my life, InsyaAllah.

kaik ghazali

On who is going to be my wali for my akad nikah, it is most probably going to be my dearest younger brother who is just 1 year younger than me.¬†He’s nervous, but I told him he doesn’t have¬†to do he talking. The kadi will do it, but you’ll¬†be my wali, ok? Haha.

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After the whole discussion in the living room, his auntie who is the eldest in the family came to my room Рfollowed by many others Рto place the ring in my fingers. There were so many people and so many cameras I swear I have never smiled for the camera so much in my life.

his elder council

Afterwards they all went down to enjoy some food…

table buffet

More photos of me and my dearests! Siblings, cousins, grandmas, aunts, closest poly mates and secondary school buddies.

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me hazzy wanis me n 4 girls 2

And so that was my engagement in a nutshell.

What made me happy was that everyone got together and my family members all contributed something for the event. One of my aunts made me the flower bouquet, my cousin Kak Fadilah helped order a cake for me even though it was last minute (due to another unforeseen circumstances…), my aunt Cik Hasiyah gave¬†us two baskets; one with cupcakes and one with¬†chocs and candies, my grandaunties baked a kek lapis cempedak¬†and¬†currypuffs to give¬†to¬†his family, and another grandaunt¬†gave¬†mini fruit tarts¬†as part of the food table for guests.

Even though I just wanted a small and simple engagement, it seemed that Allah had other plans for me; he wanted me to be happy as well despite not having my dad with me by presenting me with my (big) family and reminding me how much I am loved. So Alhamdulillah, for how the event turned out.

Oh and in case any one is wondering,¬†he did not come over but did wear¬†a baju kurung of similar maroon shade¬†in his house just so we matched even though we were in two different places. His¬†idea, not mine.¬†He is¬†sentimental like that.¬†It’s not customary for the guy to come by, and we had already arranged beforehand for him not to come to my house during the engagement day (he came along with his immediate family previously during the merisik session). Anyway, both of us would have been too shy to face everyone together. Haha.

And now, I have approximately 4 and a half months to the wedding! May Allah ease my affairs and make my heart stronger in faith InsyaAllah, ameen.